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Innocence Lost...

Mon Jul 14, 2008, 10:39 AM
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Shortly before the fiasco that was my road trip (see previous journal) I was carrying my daughter on my shoulders and she asked me in her 2 year old way, if I had a girlfriend. To which I replied with a quiet 'no.' She then asked me if Mommy was my girlfriend. Again I replied 'no.' She then stated: "Mommy loves Daddy." To which I had to reply, again - "no." She was quiet for a long moment, in which I had HOPED she had tired of the subject, because I was getting emotional. She then dashed that hope by asking very quietly, "Mommy loves Chloe?" I set her down in the grass, and settled down next to her, and told her that yes, her Mommy loves Chloe very much. She looked confused, and then stated quite clearly, that "Mommy loves Daddy." I told her 'no, not anymore, baby." She then asked me over and over, if "Mommy loves Chloe" to which I keep responding 'yes.' It then dawned on me. Chloe had watched Mommy and Daddy say "I love you" for most of her life, and give a quick kiss to each other, much like the way we do with her. My daughter had realized today that saying it one day... doesn't mean you will still love someone the next day. THAT started me crying again. I told her that Daddy loves her so very much and that no one would ever replace her. I gave her a big hug and set her in my lap. She turned and looked at me and reached up and kissed my eyes, saying "Don't hurt Daddy, owie all better," then sat back against my chest and snuggled into my lap. I asked her if she wanted to call her Mommy, and she said no. I tried to dial her mom anyway, and she just closed the phone, hanging it up. We sat there for a long time, just watching the grass while I stroked her back. Chloe never complained, never fidgeted, never tried to move until her aunt called to find out where to pick Chloe up.

A two year old should NOT have to learn that lesson.

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Thankfully (or maybe not?), my son was too young to really know when my ex left me. So I'm not sure what he thinks. But what is a fact is that he is still surrounded by people who love him and he knows that.
Unfortunately, I'm not around Chloe as much as I wish (being homeless and all). She is surrounded by people who love and care for her, and I try to see her for a couple of hours every day. But I've seen what the lack of a mother's love can do to people... I just am afraid of what will happen, and do my best to try to avoid it.

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Not worth the effort
so long as chloe has a strong support system, what sam does to her will just be on a list of irritations she reads off to some furture therapist after a bad break up.

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thanks :hug:

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That is fucked up... I feel f'n sad now... Just take care of her and love her forever!!!!! What can I say....

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I doubt she took it as hard as you did. Children (though physically fragile) are quite emotionally resilient, for the most part. She probably understands you're hurt by it, but I wouldn't think that she feels threatened. What I would do if I were you, is keep her secure by seeing her as often as you can despite any personal inconveniences (but don't blow off any obligations). I hope this helps and I also hope things get better for you. Keep at it. Things have a way of working out in time. :hug:

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Thank you, I don't think she's taking it as hard as I am. Its just hard when you only see your child for an hour or two a day...

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Not worth the effort
thats basically all anyone can say... its just heartbreaking

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Not worth the effort
I know, but you should be grateful for what time you do get with her until you get more (not saying you're not). Just keep at it. Make sure you tell her how much you love her each time you see her. Try to do something special with her (which I know is hard when you're homeless and/or broke). Just don't give up.
I know what it's like to feel down, used, and broken. I know it isn't easy to hear advice like this and really use it. I know how hard life is sometimes. Even so, trust that it will get better and that your job is to make it sooner rather than later. Whenever you feel like you can't do something, just remember that everything you do will either put you one step closer to or farther from her. Try to make each step a closing step.

Persist. :hug:

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